Dealing With Difficult People
Earl Nightingale told how on one National Secretaries Day he gave his secretary some flowers. She remarked how beautiful they were, but wondered why they didn't have any scent.
He informed her that the flowers came from a hothouse and explained that because these flowers were raised in an isolated environment, they didn't attract insects (bugs) to pollinate them. As a result, they lost their scent. In the same way, fruit raised in a hothouse, because it doesn't need to attract insects to scatter its seeds, doesn't taste as good as fruit grown in its natural environment. (Weekend Encounter, Oct. 28, 2010).
When we withdraw and isolate ourselves from people who "bug" us, it might make us feel safe from harm, but it affects us in other ways. We lose a part of what God created us to be, like a rose loses its fragrance and fruit loses its taste. God uses those people who bug us to bring out the best in us. Rather than running away from those people, let Jesus live His life through you, and the fragrance will come out. (Kent Crockett, www.kentcrockett.com)
How to Tell Male From Female
Sheila walked into the kitchen to find her husband, Fred, stalking around with a fly swatter. "And what are we doing?" she asked.
"Hunting flies," he responded.
"Oh? Killing any?" she asked with a smirk.
"Yep. Got 4 males, 3 females," he replied.
Intrigued, she asked. "How can you tell the difference?"
"Simple." He replied, "4 were on a beer can, 3 were on the phone."
--From Weekend Encounter www.actsweb.org/encounter
How Do You Make Others Feel?"People may not remember exactly what you did or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel." -- Unknown
"Wisdom" from Yogi Berra
Always go to other people's funerals, otherwise they won't come to yours. --Yogi Berra
George Sullivan’s worst childhood memory was his father holding a knife to his mother’s throat, threatening to kill her. George started wearing his rejection glasses on the day his dad moved away from his family. He hated his father and swore he would never be like him. As George grew up, every memory of his dad kindled anger within him. Ironically, the more he thought about his father, the more he became like him.
Forty years later, George attended a Promise Keeper’s meeting where the topic of discussion was mending father-son relationships. Now that George was a Christian, God tugged at his heart to forgive his father for the terrible things he had done. He wondered how he could ever have a good relationship with a father who had rejected, abused, and abandoned his own family. Perhaps if he made an attempt to be reconciled, God would set him free from his own hatred.
George began his search to find the man who had abandoned him over four decades before. He decided that if he found him, he would love him unconditionally.
After several months of investigation, his leads took him to a bar in
George pulled up a chair next to the 76-year-old man. He stretched out his hand and introduced himself. “Hi, my name is George.”
The old man with the wrinkled face shook his hand, saying, “I have a son named George.”
George replied, “I know, Dad. I’m him. How are you doing?”
His father, who had not seen him since he was a boy, choked up with emotion. With tears rolling down his face, he replied in a nervous laugh, “What took you so long to find me?”
They hugged and spent the next few hours talking about the last 40 years of their lives.
Although he can’t explain it, George’s rejection glasses fell off that day. He not only made peace with his father but also found peace within his own heart by obeying God. He overcame rejection by accepting his father unconditionally, without demanding that he change to meet his expectations.
Reflecting on this new relationship with his father, George said, “God taught me how to be a father to my son. Now He’s teaching me how to be a son to my father.”
[Kent Crockett, I Once Was Blind, But Now I Squint,
Wearing a Teflon Attitude
"If you let others dictate how you feel, you are going to be miserable." --Unknown